"The best years of your life are the ones in which you decide your problems are your own. You do not blame them on your mother, the ecology, or the president. You realize that you control your own destiny."  

I just wanted to shared Albert Ellies said. A Physicology who talks about take your personal life with responsability. 

to be more responsable about your personal life. Is more a concept which is referring to have an internal locus of control (whether of you feel that your actions can influence  your destiny) 

each one have a different perspective to think or see that. {

i think is true. As human we are, as different we are too.